Awichも気になるけど、昨日の続きをちょっと。
私の母は、いわゆる毒親なんかじゃない。
たぶん、世間から見てもまあ常識的な、社交性もある、立派な人間だと思う。
その常識的なのが私とくい違う点で、ならば私が非常識なのかという見解になりかねないのだ。
母の常識では、相応の年頃に結婚して子供を持って、できれば親と同居して親勤めをし、後取が家を継いで墓を守る。
いい学校を出た人はえらくて、いい会社に勤めてる人はいい暮らしをして幸せで、そうでないのは可哀想な人だ。
私は、それを”一理ある”くらいには支持するが、全てをそれが前提に話されると、困ってしまう。
あぁ、せめて、I love myself.
相手を否定せずに、自分を肯定する手段を模索中だ。
I am you, and you are me. なんだよね、風さん。
I'm also curious about Awich, but here's a bit of a continuation from yesterday.
My mother is not what you would call a toxic parent.
Probably, I think she's a decent human being with common sense and social skills.
If that common sense is at odds with me, then it could lead to the view that I am insane.
Her common sense is like that people should get married at a suitable age, have children, and if possible, live with their parents and work for them, and that their heir should inherit the house and take care of the grave.
People who go to good schools are great, people who work at good companies live a good life and are happy, and people who don't are pathetic.
I support this to the extent that it has a point, but I get in trouble when everything is said based on that premise.
Ah, at least I love myself.
I'm looking for a way to affirm myself without negating the other person.
I am you, and you are me, KAZE, you say.
