人と話していて、お互いの考え方の相違が明らかになった時、どうする？
「えーっ、なんで？ それじゃ～いう時困るじゃん。」
とか言って、自分の考え方を強めに主張して、相手を追い詰めてしまいがちだ。
それって、どうやって避けたらいいか、考えてみた。
こういう時、藤井風さんなら、
「そうなの？」
「へぇ～、すっげー！」
とか言うような気がするのだ。
それで自分の考えとは違うことは伝わるし、少なくとも、自分の考えを真っ向から否定されることはなくなる。
自分にはない思考に触れるいい機会にもなる。
見聞を広げ、自分を見つめ直すチャンスだ。
自己主張し過ぎる人は、自己肯定感が低いのかもしれない。
そもそも、自分が正しいとか、みんな同じじゃなきゃいけないとか、思ってるってのが大間違いなんだから。
それより、目の前の人と一つでも共感できることを見つけたほうが、ずっと気持ちいいはず。
簡単じゃないけど。
What do I do when I'm talking to someone and it becomes clear that we have different ways of thinking?
"Why? That would be a problem when you do..."
I tend to push the other person into a corner by forcefully asserting our own way of thinking.
I thought about how to avoid that.
At times like that, I feel like Fujii Kaze would say something like this.
"Is that so?"
“Wow, that’s amazing!”
This will let me know that my ideas are different from the other person's, and at least I won't have my ideas rejected outright.
It's also a good opportunity to come into contact with ideas that I don't have.
It's a chance to expand my horizons and reconsider myself.
People who are too assertive may have low self-affirmation.
In the first place, it is a big mistake to think that I'm right or that everyone has to have the same ideas.
Instead, it would feel much better to find something that I can relate to with the person in front of me.
It's not easy though.
